Resolving conflicts is a necessary skill for students to learn and we can begin expecting independence in elementary. Sometimes, when you feel like you are lining up 20 kittens rather than 20 students, there isn’t a lot of time to resolve every student conflict.
When we do get involved past the demand for an apology, we often do the heavy lifting for students. They go through the motions, but they don’t learn the skill or why it’s important. The likelihood they are going to start independently and effectively resolving conflicts with peers is pretty much zilch. continue reading